Most often this is the biggest struggle many of us will face in our lives. There are always going to be people who try to redirect you to the places they think you should be and most of the time this advice comes from people who want the best things for you, they are looking out for your future – but from their perspectives and this can limit our own belief in ourselves. I for one believe that if it weren’t for the opinions of others – there would be a lot less stress, and more clarity among individuals.
Left to our own devices, if we allow ourselves to take a step back, isolate ourselves as much as we can from the world around us and ask ourselves “Who am I?” and “What do I want for myself?” We’d find the answers instantly.
Take me for example.
If I were to mentally block out all the chaotic voices of people desperately trying to help with their suggestions and using the 4 W’s ask myself very simple questions:
“Who is J.J. Day?”
“What do I want to do?”
“When do I hope to achieve this/these goal(s)?”
“Where do I hope this/these goal(s) will take me?”
My answers would be:
“J.J. Day is a wholesome yet complex individual with a heart of gold, a passion for life. A girl who loves to laugh and spread the idea of happiness and individual beauty throughout the world. She is sensitive but relentless, has weaknesses and although is sometimes knocked down by them rises up again and not only regains what strength she had but builds herself even stronger. J.J. fights for her values and won’t quit trying to help make a positive impact in this world, to be inspired BY others and provide inspiration FOR others. This is who I am. I am love.”
“I want to be in the arts and entertainment business – singer/songwriter or actress, artist, fashion design, journalist, novelist etc. I want to love what I do, to have fun, to be a voice for others like me who’ve felt smothered, to express my personality. And when the time is right, I want to be a wife and a mom.”
“By the time I’ve reached the end of my life however long or short that may be.”
“Wherever the wind blows me, but definitely Toronto, New York, Los Angeles, England, Italy specifically.”
The only question I do not have the answer for so clearly is the “How?”
But that is the question that I can and will accept help and advice from others. I will seek out those who’ve gone before me into the world I wish to be, see if their tips work for me as they did for them. I will listen and be guided by people who are in positions to give sound advice. I will not stop until I get to where I want to be. And become the person that I know I’m meant to be. There may be some tough decisions I have to face, but as long as they are legal, and they get me where I desire, I will do everything I can.
Take control of your own world – it’s yours after all.
Stay tuned to see how my plans unfold!
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